Emotional Intelligence 1.0

by on October 2, 2014


By Ebuka J. Anichebe


Let’s make an important distinction here, people are not their behaviours. A person’s behaviour can change from time to time not necessarily as a result of an inconsistent character on his/her part but largely due to an altered state of mind.


Let’s take another look at Simon Peter who denied Jesus 3 times. Now this is pretty hard to fathom considering the fact that a few hours ago the same man cut off a man’s ear with his sword when the soldiers came to arrest Jesus, then he was in a state of anger for perhaps having his sleep in the Garden of Gethsemane disturbed. Or maybe he was just really mad with Judas Iscariot’s betrayal. Fast forward a few hours later after witnessing Jesus stripped and flogged and spat on, he gets scared and starts denying his master; someone he had abandoned his own fishing business to follow faithfully over the past 3 and half years!


You’d react differently if someone scratched your car after you just received news that you won a N350million contract, than you would if you just heard news that you lost your job! Its not the money that makes you act differently, it’s the state of mind you’re in at any particular time. Judas Iscariot killed himself after his betrayal of Jesus, it wasn’t about the money, it was about the state his mind was in after seeing his master beaten mercilessly.


Happiness, anger, joy, sorrow, excitement, depression, passion, tiredness, stress, boredom etc. are all various states or emotions we’ve experienced at one time or another.


Be careful of what state of mind you’re in before taking a decision. Never make a promise when you’re excited, never make a statement when you’re angry.


Observe the H.A.L.T. sign. Whenever you’re Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, you’re in the danger zone and at your most unresourceful state. Proceed with caution.


Acting impulsively today can only lead to regret tomorrow. Managing your own emotions is the true freedom we humans have over animals.


Written by Ebuka Anichebe, a published author of the bestseller Make Your Life a Blockbuster. He’s also an inspirational teacher, serial entrepreneur and a masterful storyteller. Follow him on Twitter @jondepol or connect with him via BlackBerry PIN:2AE27804 to get a daily burst of his fresh ideas.

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